By no means does this post condone premarital sex or having children out of wedlock. Nor does it condone divorce or am I saying that children aren't a blessing because they are.
I was a single parent, not for a long period of time but long enough to rip and run on my own, to be the mom and dad and to have that alone feeling, that feeling of what if or how will I do this or that or maybe the father will love me later on.
All of those emotions ran through me day in and day out and even though my son did not survive I feel I still got favour. My son's death saved me so don't worry about me. My heart cries out to the single parents or the person who feels having a child will change things. It will not.
I was reading the OT and came across Hagar, who for those who don't know was Sarah's maid. Sarah was barren (unable to have kids) so instead of her waiting on God, she grew impatient and allowed Hagar to get impregnated by Abraham. Now Hagar got pregnant right away and gave birth to Ishmael. Years later Sarah was finally blessed with a son Issac and as soon as he was weaned that's when Sarah wanted Hagar and Ishmael to be casted out.
Genesis 21:10
"Therefore she said to Abraham, "Cast out this bond woman and her son; for the son of this bondwoman shall not be heir with my son, namely with Issac."
Now Abraham did as his wife asked because God told him to listen to her.
Further in the OT you find Jacob with his wives Leah and Rachel. Now Rachel was barren and that is who Jacob truely loved but Leah had many sons by Jacob. All Leah kept saying is "Now this time my husband will become attached to me, because I have borne him three sons" The end result was that his heart belonged to Rachel. Now I get many lessons from these stories in the OT but the one that sticks out to me is. Yes we all make mistakes, yes we confuse love with lust and yes sometimes you end up raising a child alone but if you turn to God he promises to take care of you and your child, he will become the absent parent. God doesn't want you stay in a broken home, playing house with someone who isn't your husband. OK you had a child now let's get it right. First who God intends for you to be with trust that is who you will be with. Like me, most of us had children with a person we shouldn't of been with in the first place. In my case it turned out to save me and turn me completely to Christ. Don't get me wrong children are a blessing but they are also expensive and hard to raise alone. If you are a single parent I commend you and pray you turn to God so he can help you along the way and maybe even send you that husband or wife who is willing to be a great parent to your child. But if you're reading this and you have no children I say wait. Wait on the Lord to send you who he deems fit for you, not saying everything will be lollipops and unicorns but when God is guiding you and your partner it's so much easier. Trust me, I know. I will say this, since I allowed God to choose who I should date man oh man everything is much easier. Be blessed and remember God has a plan for your life it's up to you to follow Christ.
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